Women for Sobriey Statement 4

Problems bother me only to the degree I permit them to.

I now better understand my problems and do not permit problems to overwhelm me.


When I was drinking, and even occasionally in early sobriety, any problem was a BIG DEAL, and had the potential to totally derail me.   I was exhausted, overwhelmed and not coping well.

I wasn’t always like that.   In my 20’s I truly believed I could handle anything, and that attitude carried me to a successful career and multiple degrees and professional designations.

I lost that confidence as my drinking got worse and then as I continued to relapse, and overspend.   I often felt like I was powerless against the world.

But now I recognize I’m not powerless.   Sure I still have a ton of problems, mostly financial and relating to my job search, but they’re not overwhelming most days, because I recognize that I have a choice in how I respond to challenges.   I can come up with action plans, to do lists, and strategies that will help me move forward.   I can seek outside assistance when I need it.   I can choose how much I worry and obsess over a problem versus believing I can handle it, and figuring out what the next step is.

Sure sometimes I get overwhelmed, but it’s a lot less often, and I can usually pull myself out of it pretty quickly, as long as I don’t get sucked into old behaviour patterns.

I’ve made a choice, I’m not going to be ruled by my problems, I’m going to look for solutions that I can implement.

You too have that choice.


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